You and I both know that a narcissist is extremely image-driven. They want people to see them a certain way. If they act kind, compassionate, charismatic, or you can name the qualities they project to others, they will want to maintain this image at any cost because they seek acceptance, supply, and validation. You can corner them using their own image and insecurities and the projection they want to put out there. For example, if you are in a situation like a court situation where they do not agree to the things that you want them to agree to, you can bring up this image. First, get them to agree to a couple of things that you know they would agree to. For instance, you could get them to agree that they put their children’s welfare before their own or that they value their children’s needs before their own. Once you get them to agree to a couple of things that make them look good in front of others, you can go ahead and present that agreement. The likelihood of them signing it would be quite high because they have to protect their image in front of everyone else. They have to look nice and maintain this image of a kind, involved, affectionate, compassionate, loving father. This is how you can use their image to essentially torture them, and they wouldn’t be able to do anything because they are prisoners of their own doings and personality traits.
1 Focus on Rebuilding Your Life:
Focus on your life, on rebuilding it, on healing yourself, and on bringing yourself out of the darkness they have put you in — the darkness they want you to stay in forever. If you become what they never want you to become, if you become the best version of yourself, that is going to be the biggest narcissistic injury. Why? Because that would prove to the narcissist that all of their mechanisms and the things they do are useless. They failed miserably because you proved them wrong. They tried to destroy you, but you collected your pieces, rebuilt yourself, and became better than who you were before meeting them or during the abusive cycle. So, focus on rebuilding yourself and creating a life that they would envy. Every single moment you live the life of your dreams, every moment you live a healed life, will be a moment of torture for the narcissist. They can’t stand your progress or success. They have to see you struggling and suffering. The moment you destroy that, the moment you step out of the bubble they have put you in and create your own life and reality, that is when you almost assassinate the narcissist’s false ego.
What happens when you stop paying attention to a narcissist
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