2. “What you have done is fine, but it’s not good enough.”
When you tell the narcissist, “Oh, what you have done is fine, but it’s not good enough; I’m not impressed by it; you need to do more,” you cannot give that kind of feedback to a person who is so fragile, who thinks that the bare minimum should be perceived as more than enough. For example, when you tell them, “I don’t feel like you love me,” they might respond, “What are you talking about? Had I not loved you, I would have left you a long time ago. The fact that I am physically present in this relationship should naturally mean or means that I love you.” But they do not talk about how they treat you; physical presence is love for a narcissist.
Another example could be you demanding some change in their behavior, and they might go to therapy, let’s say. They might do one or two sessions, and you’ll say, “No, that’s not enough; you need to do it continuously.” And they might respond, “No, that should be more than enough. Besides, therapy is stupid; you’re wasting my time. I tried, and see, you’re still unhappy. I do not know what will make you happy.
When you “Abandon” the narcissist
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