If something or someone makes you feel less than good enough, what do you do?
You look within and try to find what you need to work on and improve. But if something makes a narcissist feel inadequate, what do they do? They point fingers and become extremely destructive.
You might ask, Do they even feel this way? After all, they often appear so confident and full of themselves. But yes, they do feel it—all the time.
Understanding Narcissistic Shame
The reality is they keep this shame suppressed, but sometimes it slips beyond their control and emerges. When it does, all hell breaks loose. Let’s dive deeper into this in today’s episode.
Narcissists’ Insecurities and Behaviors
Beneath the confident exterior lies an insecure, childlike entity functioning through an adult body. While they have the capabilities of an adult, they possess the maturity of a two-year-old, driven by ego and impulses, focused solely on their needs. This is what makes their behavior so primitive and, at times, animalistic. Narcissists, like anyone else, have insecurities. The difference is that non-narcissistic individuals accept, struggle with, and work on their insecurities, while narcissists hide them. They’re constantly running from their own shadows, only noticing their shortcomings when they’re forced to confront them. That’s when their anger and destructiveness surface.
Narcissistic Jealousy and Destruction
In many cases, the “sun” that reveals their shame is another person. Let’s say you’re successful, intelligent, empathetic—all the things a narcissist envies. They can’t tolerate being on equal footing with you, so they must either put you down or tear you apart in jealousy. They may even use their association with you to enhance their own image, while privately resenting and envying you. This isn’t ordinary hatred—it’s animosity rooted in jealousy. Your light reveals their darkness, igniting their destructive tendencies.
Case Study: Cardi B’s Experience
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