Narcissists are experts at detecting insecurities, no matter how small. They pick up on the little things that make you feel vulnerable and use them to manipulate you.
Over time, their subtle remarks or dismissive actions chip away at your self-esteem. You start to question your worth: Am I really like that? Is something wrong with me?
As their manipulation continues, it reshapes how you view yourself, making it much harder to break free.
Attraction to Strength and Independence
Surprisingly, narcissists are often drawn to strong, independent individuals. While this might seem counterintuitive, they admire these traits and want to possess them.
But this admiration quickly turns into envy. If they can’t dominate you, they’ll work to undermine your strength. They’ll use gaslighting, guilt trips, and other tactics to chip away at your confidence and independence, leaving you vulnerable and easier to control.
What You Can Do to Protect Yourself
Understanding that narcissists are drawn to your internal qualities—your empathy, optimism, and strength—can help you recognize their patterns. They often mimic your behavior and belittle you, not because they admire you, but because they want to control you.
The key is to set firm boundaries. Recognize their manipulation for what it is, and don’t let their tactics erode your sense of self-worth.
Protect your unique traits, and don’t allow them to take what makes you special. Stay strong, and remember—you deserve relationships where your needs are valued and respected.
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