The narcissist expects you to give him your hand when he drowns, and then he will pull you underwater, drown you, and come to shore himself, and then add that he was the one who saved you.
This is what a relationship with a narcissist looks like. When a narcissist has rejected you or when you have left him, it is not easy for him to find a source of supply that is similar, the same or better than you. A narcissist cannot swim alone in reality.
A narcissist who is drowning in reality will cling to everything, he will take hold of anyone who gives him a hand. This happens because the narcissist is desperate, because the narcissist is in a hopeless situation in which you already realize who you are dealing with and you don’t want to deal with him any longer.
Regardless, the narcissist needs you very much, he needs you more than you need him, so the narcissist will try to manipulate you into helping him, and sometimes he will offer help himself, but instead of being a lifeline, he will be ballast and not necessarily on a hard path. surface, but in water.
A narcissist will drag anyone down. The new source of supply will be pulled underwater unless this person first realizes that you can’t help a narcissist, that you can’t help him when you sacrifice yourself and harm yourself.
That you can’t help a narcissist sink with him.
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This is what happens when reality hits the narcissist. The narcissist wants you to believe something completely different, he will only show you a false impression, something that is an illusion. The narcissist is unhappy and is struggling with many difficulties that he doesn’t want you to know about. The narcissist wants you to think that he is great, that he is doing great and that is what he wants to make you jealous.
For a narcissist, the only thing that matters is the opinion of others and a false image. For a narcissist, truth, reality and facts do not matter. That’s why the narcissist stays in the same place, in a hopeless situation, that’s why nothing will ever get better, because the narcissist always cares too much about what others think of him.
A narcissist is always focused on how they can use situations to their advantage and how to take advantage of other people. The narcissist will not do what he needs to do to improve his situation, so the narcissist remains in his narcissistic cycle, which constantly goes in circles. The narcissist remains in a hopeless situation, always unhappy, unfulfilled, struggling with many difficulties and problems, and at the same time he tries to make you think that he is doing great, that he feels great, that things are better than when you were together. This is what happens when reality hits the narcissist.
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