The first thing that reminds me of countless fights I used to witness as a child happening between my parents. And guess what, those fights used to be all about the quilt, how much one gets and how the other doesn’t have it. They would fight like children all night, and it wouldn’t be a silly fight filled with joy or laughter. It would be a crazy fight that would erupt and explode within seconds. Then there would be verbal abuse, sometimes physical abuse. They would start cursing each other, and then all night, they would sleep showing each other their backs. What I just explained to you may sound silly to you or you may not be able to resonate with it, but try to understand me, it’s not about the quilt thing. It’s about anything at all.
They have a pattern of triggering a fight or creating chaos the moment you are about to fall asleep. Because they themselves either do not sleep at all, like vampires, they stay up all night, that feeds them. Two, they sleep quite easily after deregulating you emotionally because they need to take that poison out of their body and put it into something else. You become the victim right in that moment. It relaxes them, but it completely steals your calmness. And they, you stay awake all night while they stay asleep. They sleep like a baby. That’s craziness. They may bring up something from the past and then talk about it, want to resolve it with you.
To share another personal experience with you, I would tell you that my father was and is, of course, obsessed with money. So a pattern he had was, he would talk about money or money-related affairs with my clinically narcissistic mother and they would fight right an hour before going to sleep. There would be something that would trigger him, anything, and her as well because she used to behave in a different way. She was more passive-aggressive, more of a silent treatment-giving person. She used to Stonewall and do stuff like that. But he was very aggressive, very over in presentation. So this chaos created chaos in our lives, which is why to this day I’m trying to help myself sleep properly, to heal my sleep. And I definitely have done a lot of work and it has changed a lot, but I’m just giving you an example.
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