So, what should your approach be? Your approach should be to detect the real motive and intention behind their words. What are they trying to accomplish? By understanding their nature and behavior, you can one-up them. For example, if they are trying to make you angry and using manipulative words to do so, and you understand what’s going on, you can decide not to react angrily.
This makes them feel defeated in that moment, even though they may rage afterward. Another example is using a negotiation strategy. You cannot tell a narcissist what you want because they want you to lose. Instead, you can throw in a bigger number, knowing they won’t give it to you. They will bargain and negotiate, thinking they have won when, in fact, you’ve maneuvered the situation to your advantage.
What’s also important to understand is that a narcissist can push your buttons only until those buttons remain invisible. Once you recognize them and understand that you need to regulate your emotions, you take your power back. You stop them from pulling those strings, allowing you to remain stoic in almost any conversation with them. It helps you focus on their intentions and hidden agendas instead of their triggering words. Step number one is all about predicting their move before you make any move and giving the appropriate response so that they lose without knowing they have lost or feel powerless.
5 Clues to Spot a Narcissist in conversation
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