7. Mixed messages
Here’s an example. You get a text that says, “Our relationship is over. You are truly the most amazing person I’ve ever met. Being with you was the best time of my entire life, and I will always cherish our memories. But I don’t feel emotionally safe with you. You’re always trying to control me. I will never forget how sweet you were to me. I never felt so close to someone before. We want different things, and I’m sorry, but these are my boundaries. You are so special, and I truly love you. It’s unfortunate that you drove me away. I wish you peace and happiness.” So it’s confusing.
So these are some of the types of texts you may get from a narcissist. And keep in mind that not all narcissists will use these texting tactics all of the time. But when they do, it’s about control, and it’s about their fear of rejection and abandonment. If you’re always around waiting for the narcissist’s breadcrumbs, think of it as being their convenience store that’s open 24/7.
They’re probably getting most of what they need elsewhere, but it’s still convenient to have you around if you know you still serve some purpose, like supplying money, resources, attention, validation, services, or maybe simply to make them look or feel more normal. In this case, they will likely keep you around for a while and continue to manipulate and psychologically abuse you. If you’re allowing yourself to be their servant, pet, punching bag, or backup plan, then consider talking to a mental health professional in your area to help you figure out how to regain your dignity and your self-respect.
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