Confronting a narcissist can be one of the fastest methods to get them into an upheaval. Generally, they are immensely combative, and regardless of the fact that these challenges might originate from an external source, the narcissist will view them as a personal assault on their mastery.
“I think writers are the most narcissistic people. Well, I musn’t say this; I like many of them; a great many of my friends are writers.”
― Sylvia Plath
This is noticeable in various aspects of their lives, like work or connections. Difficulties for them could translate to an attack on their self-importance and overall sense of being, basically striking at what makes up who they consider themselves to be!
Have you ever known someone with this type of behavior? It’s fascinating yet disheartening how quickly things can escalate when we feel our safety nets are threatened.
When it comes to work, narcissistic people can be easily triggered. For example, if someone else gets promoted above them or they see somebody getting recognition for something that the narcissist has done better before, it causes strong emotions.
On top of that, when a person succeeds in anything without working hard enough, this also leads to negative feelings for a narcissist because it goes against what they strongly believe in and stand by: striving towards excellence through their own effort! It’s like their motto! But how do you really measure one’s greatness?
It’s important to remember that these negative emotions aren’t just confined; they often extend outward to the people around them (family, friends, etc.).
“Stay away from lazy parasites, who perch on you just to satisfy their needs; they do not come to alleviate your burdens; hence, their mission is to distract, detract, extract, and make you live in abject poverty.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson
This can make a narcissist feel insecure if someone close is doing well without having made extreme efforts. The narcissist may not be aware of what exactly is going on within themselves but will involuntarily become fixated on ‘outdoing’ anybody who is making progress while appearing disinterested in their own work.
In relationships—both platonic and intimate ones—this same kind of issue arises for an individual suffering from narcissistic tendencies (given how understanding each other’s point of view plays such a huge role).
If somebody else seems more knowledgeable than the narcissist, then it triggers those feelings of inadequacy, which could lead to serious problems over time unless there are steps taken by all parties involved towards managing things properly.
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