Before you decide to go back and confront that narcissist, prove them wrong by holding your ground. Show them their place, but understand this: you will never truly win by playing their game. That approach only fuels the monster.
Defeating a narcissist is an art—one that many people struggle to master. Often, people choose not to react, thinking this is their best option. This approach is partly true, but to succeed, you need to make calculated moves. That’s precisely what I’ll teach you in today’s episode.
Rule #1: Don’t Play Their Game
First, don’t engage in their game. Narcissists have perfected manipulation, and they thrive on getting a reaction from you. They’ll accuse, blame, and provoke, pushing every button to draw you into defending yourself. Don’t fall into this trap. They want to exhaust you, draining your energy so that you’re too depleted to fight back effectively.
Avoiding their game requires keen awareness—what I call “bullshit detection.” Recognize their real intentions. For instance, if they accuse you of infidelity, know that it’s likely projection. Stick to your truth, and don’t let them reshape your self-image. Remember, they’ll try to implant a distorted version of you, but you must remain true to your authentic self.
What to Do Instead
Have your own game plan. Dictate the situation subtly without outwardly revealing your intentions. Let’s explore this more in rule number two.
Rule #2: Befriend Silence
Next, avoid unnecessary dialogue. Befriend silence, and let them reveal their own flaws. Narcissists despise unpredictability—they need to know your feelings, your anger, and if you’ll retaliate. Don’t satisfy this need. Stay calm and collected, showing no reaction.
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