Why the Narcissist Sees You as the One Who Won
Narcissists rewrite history to fit their narrative. Maybe you confronted them about their lies or exposed their manipulation. But in their version, you were just being irrational or overly sensitive. If you caught them cheating, they might spin it as a consequence of your neglect.
Every action you took to protect yourself becomes, in their mind, an act of aggression. When they retell their storyโto themselves, flying monkeys, or mutual friendsโthey frame it like this:
- โThey used me and left me like I was nothing.โ
- โThey were so selfish, always thinking about themselves.โ
- โI gave them everything, and they just walked away without a second thought.โ
The Narcissist’s Delusional Beliefs
This isnโt just about playing the victim. Itโs about maintaining controlโover the narrative, other peopleโs perceptions, and even your own mind. By painting you as the villain, they avoid facing an uncomfortable truth: their behavior drove you away.
The Truth About Your Survival
Letโs set the record straight:
- You did not โget awayโ with anythingโyou survived.
- You did not cause harmโyou reacted to it.
- You did not leave them in miseryโyou reclaimed your life.
Their perception of you is not rooted in reality. It reflects their entitlement and belief that they are owed your forgiveness, loyalty, and loveโno matter how poorly they treated you.
Moving Forward: Letting Go of the Narcissistโs Lies
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