When they realize you’re not going to chase them, they get angry. They might accuse you of never really caring about them, or they may suggest that your lack of pursuit proves you never loved them. This reaction is a defense mechanism—by making you feel guilty, they’re trying to regain control of the situation.
The Power of Going No Contact:
When you go no contact after a breakup with a narcissist, it can be incredibly powerful. It forces them to sit with their own emotions, to deal with the shame and guilt they usually try to avoid. Without you there to forgive them or chase after them, they’re left alone with their conscience, which can be a very uncomfortable place for a narcissist.
On-and-Off Relationships:
If you’ve ever been in an on-and-off relationship with a narcissist, you might notice that the relationship never fully stabilizes. The periods of being “on” become shorter, and the periods of being “off” grow longer. This happens because the narcissist starts looking for other sources of validation. They might eventually replace you altogether, but as long as you let them come back, they’ll keep using you as a placeholder.
Conclusion:
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