In 2019, before I had gone completely no-contact with my narcissistic family, my malignant narcissist father starved me for three days in a row. Can you believe that? The only things I had during those days were a couple of soft drinks and an apple. Back then, I had one of the most painful realizations of my life: money was extremely important to him—more important than anyone’s life. He would choose saving a couple of bucks over saving a starving child. What happened? Why was I starved, and how did that painful experience end? Let me share these details with you in today’s article. But before I do that, I want to share my intention with you. My intention is to validate your similar experiences and give you a practical example of how stingy narcissists can be when it comes to money.
Setting the Stage: Returning Home and Facing Pressure
In 2018, I completed my graduation and returned home immediately because I was homesick. I was trauma-bonded to my mother and, at the same time, suffered from terrible abandonment anxiety. After spending a couple of months at home, my father pressured me to leave once again. He wanted me to study for an examination that I had no interest in at all. He never asked me about my hobbies, nor was he interested in knowing my skills or what I wanted to do in life. No, he forced his decision on me because he had the money and was in charge of my financial stability. He impulsively decided that we should leave within two days. I cried, I pleaded, I begged, but he did not listen. He didn’t care. In fact, he relished the idea of causing me harm and breaking that bond of stability that I had created with my things at home. He booked the tickets, and we left within two days.
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