As usual, a narcissist will never take responsibility for why you left. That would mean admitting that they weren’t as powerful as they believed. So instead, they rewrite the story, twisting the truth to make it seem like you were the problem. They tell people, “Oh, you were crazy,” or “She was unstable. I gave him everything, and still, he just walked away.” They play the victim, and the worst part is they believe their own lies—self-gaslighting. The more a narcissist mentions your name, the more afraid they are of you. Deep down, they know exactly what they did, and they know that if people saw the truth, they would lose face. That’s why they obsessively twist reality to protect their fragile ego and false image, which is nothing but damage control in action.
Number Five: They Hoover You with Fake Coincidences
Have you ever received a random text from them months after going no contact? It might say something like, “Hey, I just saw something that reminded me of you,” or “Hope you’re doing well,” or something cryptic that sounds bizarre, like, “I’ve been thinking about reaching out for a while.” But why? This isn’t love; this isn’t remorse. It’s a test. They don’t miss you; they miss controlling you. They want to see if they can still pull you back in. They do not want to make things right; they just want proof that they still matter to you.
No matter what you did for them, it was never enough. They are a bottomless pit; nothing will ever satisfy them. And I’m saying this because you cannot respond to any of these hoovering attempts. You have to see it as a confession from that narcissist. But what are they confessing? That they are weak and want to know your life status to feel in control of their own life. They cannot move forward; they are stuck. They are more dependent on you than you ever were on them, and they cannot admit it. So they will just reach out quite randomly, acting like they are just trying to casually know what’s going on, or oh, by mistake, they sent a message to you that was supposed to be sent to somebody else. It’s a trick to pull you back into the trap and to torture you one more time.
Number Six: They Start to Self-Destruct
5 Ways To Torture a Narcissist (WARNING: REALLY SADISTIC)
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