The therapist goes, “Okay, I understand this has been a problem in your life. What can we do about it? Here are some suggestions, here are some steps that you can take.” “Oh, the most horrible therapist I have ever been to. This coach is BS. No credentials whatsoever. Doesn’t know what they’re talking about. I will never ever listen to them.” Because they challenged you in a compassionate way. They asked you to step in and take control back into your hands. That is what they do. When their current state of false self is not acknowledged the way they want it to be acknowledged, they become really panicky, they become really anxious because they feel exposed and they feel pressured to change their situation, which to them means a total loss of supply.
When you get help from others.
In a narcissistic, parasitic relationship, you are expected to play the role of a host and solely depend on the narcissist for your survival when the reality is the opposite. They depend on you, but to have control and to make it seem like they are better than you, they want you to believe you need them. When you step outside of the relationship to seek help, you become the enemy, the cruel one. They become really jealous of you. Two reasons. One, they believe they deserve to get all the attention from everybody who is giving you attention.
Two, they are getting exposed. People are telling you, “You need to wake up. This relationship is killing you, and you need to leave it.” Both work against them. That means dependency is gone, which ultimately means power destroyed, control lifted. All members of my narcissistic family hated my team—the people who I work with who help me to put everything together. They wanted me to suffer in isolation, feel overwhelmed, and go running back to them. Crying to mommy, “I don’t know how to deal with the world.” So that she gets to keep me infantilized and uses me the way she wanted to. That’s what they want. They want you to solely depend on them for their survival, not yours. That’s how crazy and reversed everything is.
2 Ugly Lies Narcissist Programs You to Believe
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