They know what they are doing. I always say this. It’s not like they’re purely driven by unconscious desires and unconscious drives. They know exactly why they are doing what they are doing and what they’re going to get out of it. These individuals act nice with their children only until a certain age when their child starts displaying individuality. When this child demonstrates agency and has a voice and starts saying no, they give a pushback. That is when the narcissist perceives a threat and gets a narcissistic injury, which then triggers their monstrous nature, making them really callous and cruel in their approach, and that gives a massive amount of trauma because a child is not able to understand who this parent is. They were someone else. The same was true for me and my mother when she started showing her real side. I was bamboozled, shocked to my core, because I did not recognize that person. I’m talking about recent times when I started to see through things—see through that facade. I was taken aback.
Their love for the children is conditional and transactional. It purely depends on what they are getting out of what they are doing, and the moment it stops, the moment the child stops seeking their daddy and mommy, and there is no constant attention, now they’re focusing on themselves, they have friends, they have toys, they have pets, that is when the jealousy kicks in, and their own rotten, call it inner child or the fragments of inner child, take up the demonic form, trying to traumatize the child and inflict a lot of pain.
What should you do next time you see a narcissist behaving nicely with children? When you see a narcissist behaving nicely around a baby or when interacting with a child, don’t be confused. See
They see it for what it is and understand it’s nothing but a way of extracting maximum supply, and they feel so good about having full control and authority over this thing they perceive as a toy.
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