You already know how difficult it is to cope and deal with a narcissist, especially when you cannot cut them off or leave them fully. People say you should gray rock, which means giving no emotion to the narcissist, but is it that easy? It’s not that practical. Alternatively, they say you should use the Jade technique. Jade stands for “do not justify, do not argue or defend yourself, and do not explain,” but the narcissist does not give you enough room to do all of this easily.
So here is an alternative approach I call the Stone strategy. Let’s talk about that in today’s episode. Before I get started with describing the whole approach to you, I would like you to know that I have created a program on how to master co-parenting with a narcissist. This program will teach you how to see them for who they are, how to fight them in the most strategic way, and how to nurture your children properly so that they do not get traumatized by the narcissist’s behavior. If you want instant access to this course, click the eye button above or the link in the description.
What is the Stone strategy? Stone is a powerful acronym for Stand Tall, Offer Nothing, Navigate Elsewhere. The third part is the most important one, so stay until the very end so that you don’t miss it.
Stand Tall: When I say “Stand Tall,” I am inviting you to step into your power. If you’re an empath, unleash that power within yourself at your core. I’m not saying that in a narcissistic way; I’m not saying that you should become controlling or authoritative. None of that. I want you to step into your power by recognizing that you are worthy of love and respect. Know who you truly are, your values, your moral code, and how you operate in this world. Understand that you’re precious and acknowledge it fully. Accept yourself so that the narcissist, this person who has no self whatsoever, is anti-self, cannot come in to tell you otherwise or shatter your reality. Standing tall is all about maintaining a posture of self-assuredness physically, psychologically, and emotionally. Broaden your shoulders, not in an intimidating way, just keeping your chest open, body relaxed, and sending the message that you are not afraid of them. You are not afraid of their games. You may say all the BS that you want, but you will not belittle me because I know who I am, what I stand for, and what I have done. Standing tall means not letting their words or the narratives they create impact who you are, how you behave, and what your actions mean. For example, in co-parenting situations, document everything to counter their narratives.
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