When you get caught in the orbit of a narcissist, the sharpest pain often isn’t the insult, the betrayal, or even the rejection. It’s confusion. The narcissist lives in fog and wants you to live there too. Words get twisted. Conversations you remember clearly are retold as if you imagined them. Your feelings are labeled as too sensitive, too dramatic, or too much. After a while, you don’t just doubt the narcissist; you start doubting yourself. Did that really happen? Maybe I’m overreacting. Maybe this is my fault. That confusion is not random; it’s not an accident. It’s a strategy. As long as you are disoriented, the narcissist stays in control. When you’re dizzy, you grab whatever is closest to steady yourself. Too often, that ends up being the very person who pushed you off balance in the first place.
But God doesn’t move in fog. God does not speak in chaos. Scripture tells us that God is not the author of confusion but of peace. Where the narcissist throws sand in your eyes, God wipes it away. Where the narcissist builds a maze, God opens a door. God is truth. And when you invite that truth into the mess, something begins to shift—quietly at first, but undeniably. You start to see, not all at once, not in one dramatic explosion of revelation, but like the slow sunrise creeping over a dark horizon. God often pulls the curtain back inch by inch, just enough light for the next step, just enough clarity for today.
Why? Because if all of it hit your heart in a single moment—every lie, every manipulation, every hidden motive—it might feel like your entire life just shattered. Especially when a narcissist is someone close: a partner, a parent, a sibling, a spiritual leader, a boss. You’ve tied pieces of your identity to that relationship. If God ripped every veil away in one second, it could feel like the ground itself gave way under your feet. So God works through wisdom. A nudge here, a moment of clarity there; a conversation that doesn’t sit right, a memory that suddenly makes sense. Little by little, God invites you into reality—not to crush you but to strengthen you. Each piece of truth you accept becomes a brick under your feet.
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