Use This Strategy and You Will Never Win Against Narcissist
Now fast forward to the discard. Either you leave them, or they leave you, but youโre no longer together. Yet, their presence lingers in your mind because youโre heavily trauma-bonded and struggling with cognitive dissonance. The pain feels unbearable. You miss the person they pretended to be in the beginning, and a part of you wonders if theyโre missing you too. So you decide to send them a messageโnot directly, of course. Instead, you craft the perfect post on social media.
This is where you make the biggest mistake. Your post is designed to show them how well youโre doing. Maybe itโs a glowing selfie with friends, a shot of you at a fancy dinner, or even a picture of two wine glasses on a table without any explanation. You think this will make them see what theyโve lost.
But hereโs what actually happens:
- They feel a twisted sense of satisfaction. Why? Because they know youโre still emotionally tied to them. That post, as happy and confident as it might appear, screams “Iโm still thinking about you” to them. This provides them with negative supplyโa form of validation that, even in separation, they still control your emotions.
- They perceive your post as a challenge. Narcissists donโt see your happiness as genuine; they see it as an attack on their ego. To them, your post says, “Look, Iโm thriving without you,” and that threatens their need to feel superior.
In response, they might retaliate. Maybe they post their own carefully curated pictures with their new supply, turning their social media into a highlight reel of their โamazingโ life. Or worse, they might reach out to youโnot because they miss you, but to pull you back into their orbit. They may send a cryptic message like, “Glad to see youโre doing so well,” designed to confuse you and make you second-guess your progress.
In either case, you lose. If they react, itโs not because they careโitโs because they want to maintain control. If they donโt react, youโre left staring at your phone, waiting for a sign that will never come.
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