Number two: when they see you eating peacefully. There’s something so powerful about sitting down to eat your meal in peace and minding your own business, just enjoying that moment. For a narcissist, it is unbearable when you do that because, in that moment, you are showing self-love. You are not needing them. Like sleep deprivation, you’re nourishing yourself, prioritizing your body, and enjoying life without them being the center of attention.
It’s pathetic, but it’s true: narcissists hate that. They hate seeing you content and focused on fulfilling your needs. What do they do? They disturb it. You may notice they will start an argument, bring up a sensitive topic, or even throw a sarcastic comment your way—anything to destroy your appetite. They do not want you to be hungry. That’s why many survivors lose their hunger in such relationships.
If you are distracted, you are easier to control. They want you anxious, insecure, and hungry. When you’re hungry, you are not able to think clearly. Instead of eating food, they want you to consume their insults, filling your body with psychological toxicity. This is also why your gut is often destroyed; nothing goes in except stress and chaos. That is what they feed you, and that’s why your body rejects food.
3. The Threat of ‘Me Time’
Number three: when they see you enjoying “me time.” This is a big one. Whether it is drinking your tea, reading a book, sipping your coffee, journaling, or simply sitting in silence, narcissists despise your “me time.” They see you as a slave, and that is why they do not let you reconnect with yourself. They do not want you to reflect; they do not want you to think; they do not want you to enjoy your own company because they know that’s dangerous.
“Me time” means emotional independence. It means you’re not relying on them for validation. More than that, it means you are being introspective, questioning them. They do not want that internal exposure to happen; they do not want you to see them for who they are. They want you to believe the mask they wear, to think, “Oh yeah, maybe they’re not that bad.” They want you to live in that trance.
But when you sit with yourself, when you take that time out of your day, when you gaze off into nothingness, you gain a lot of insight from your subconscious mind. That is a big no-no for the narcissist, and that’s why you get attacked the most when you are sitting, relaxing, or doing nothing. They may give you random tasks like, “Do this,” or “Do that.” If they have nothing to fight about, they’ll say, “Why aren’t you feeding our baby? Why aren’t you cooking already? Why are you wasting time? Go do something! Why are you being so lazy?”
It’s not about any of these things; it’s about the rejection they fear experiencing if somehow you wake up from the psychological coma they have put you in through their crazy, shape-shifting behavior.
4. The Gym: A Source of Insecurity
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