Let me give you another example. You are an air host or air hostess on a flight that a narcissist is on. The narcissist walks in, grandiose, and you’re tired from your day. You smile at them, you greet them, but there’s a little bit of energy missing. You’re low. It’s fine. It’s understandable. It doesn’t matter. It’s a very insignificant thing that most people will ignore. But you have given this narcissist a big injury. And, guess what? The next thing you find after that flight is that they have complained about you to the authorities. The reason? “Oh, I was not welcomed with a smile. I felt so disrespected,” and so on. That is their expectation. They’re extremely insecure. They depend on other people’s validation. It is blood for the parasite. They want that attention because they constantly keep hiding their insecurities. They are deeply ashamed of who they are. They hate themselves. They need validation so that they can remain distant from their reality. But whenever they feel they haven’t gotten it much or the way they deserve to get it, they feel anxious. That anxiety never comes up as anxiety. It always gets converted into anger and rage.
When they are expected to give unconditionally.
This is what really irks them. This is my personal experience with my narcissistic father as well as my narcissistic mother. The only difference is with my covert narcissistic mother, I didn’t realize it in the beginning. I realized it later on. And every time she pulled out that list and counted the things that she had done for me, bought for me, and changed for me, and so on. See, when you choose to become a parent, you unconsciously, without saying, accept the responsibilities that come with having a child. Every healthy parent would agree with that. But when a narcissistic parent has a child, it is seen as a liability, especially in terms of the expenses. And when a narcissistic parent is expected to, or is, let’s say, forced to spend money on their child, on their food, on their clothes, on their education, on medical stuff, they see it as a liability. They hate it. They curse the child. They curse their life. And they make such a clownish face. What kind of impact does that have on the child? Well, they feel like crap.
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