So why do they miss you? It’s simple: narcissists are superficial beings, and they only miss the surface-level acts that you did for them. They don’t understand the real meaning of building trust and true relationships. When a genuine person builds trust, their relationship strengthens. The more you have someone’s back when they’re down, the more they feel comfortable with you. But for a narcissist, people and relationships are disposable, and they never truly understand the importance of building meaningful connections.
In the end, it’s important to let narcissists go and move on. They’ll miss you, sure, but it’s only because you served their superficial needs. So let them miss you while you build real, meaningful connections with the people who deserve you. When a narcissist misses you, it’s not because they’re thinking of you and reminiscing about all the love and affection you showered them with. It’s much darker than that, but it’s also tragic to think that they do miss you—even if not for the right reasons.
There may be exceptions to the rule, of course, and sometimes a narcissist finds a new victim in a dark place, just like you were. I’ll admit it: when I met the narcissist, I was in one of the darkest places of my life. But at the same time, I was the happiest I’d been in a while—though it was the wrong kind of happy. I’m not trying to paint myself as an angel either; I was running with the wrong crowd, doing whatever young folks call living it up in the city. I’ve touched on this a bit before, but let me go into more detail later. Suffice it to say, I was dancing with the devil, and that’s how I met the narcissist.
Now, I hope you know by now that I’ve met someone who goes around hurting people. I don’t steal, rob, manipulate, or hurt others for fun. Do I have my vices and struggles? Sure, we all do. I’ve struggled with controlling my ego and meaningless hookups in the past. These two alone can turn you into a narcissist in their own way; you become all about yourself, your own pleasure, and your own fulfillment. The worst part is, it’s never mutual. No matter how much you try to justify it, there comes a point when it all becomes an addiction—just like being a narcissist.
I have to admit, I used to be pretty narcissistic myself. I was so focused on my own needs that I didn’t really consider how my actions affected others. It’s a common trait of narcissists: they’re so addicted to themselves and their own desires that they don’t give a second thought to other people’s feelings. It’s not personal, though; that’s just how they are. They’ll always put themselves first and won’t hesitate to hurt anyone who gets in the way of what they want. These people are addicted to their own supply, if you will, and they’ll do just about anything to get it. They’ll lie about loving you, steal your money, or manipulate you into doing things for them—all to satisfy their own desires.
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