And as you do, the chains start falling—not from the narcissist’s hands first, but from your own heart. You stop waiting for an apology that may never come. You stop rehearsing speeches that will never be heard. You stop replaying the past, trying to find a magic moment where you messed up and could have saved everything. Instead, you begin to say, “God, you saw it all. You know the truth. You know what was done, and you know what it did to me. That I place in your hands. Show me who I am in you now. Lead me into the future you planned long before this pain ever touched my life.”
That’s where true freedom begins—not when the narcissist admits everything, not when everyone finally believes your side, not when justice looks exactly the way you imagined. Freedom begins when you step out of the narcissist’s reality and anchor yourself in God’s reality. And in that place, their manipulation loses its grip. Their words no longer define you. Their silence no longer destroys you. You are not small. You are not crazy. You are not powerless. You are loved. You are seen. You are held.
The narcissist may have tried to make you feel like you are impossible to love—too broken, too needy, too much. But God never spoke those words over you. God speaks life, not condemnation, over wounded hearts. So let this be your quiet declaration today: I step out of confusion and into clarity. I step out of bondage and into freedom. I step out of the narcissist’s story and back into the story God is writing with my life. I don’t need to change a narcissist. I am called to stand in truth, guard my heart, and trust God with what I can’t control. My peace, my future, and my identity don’t belong to the narcissist; they belong to God. And once that reality settles in your soul, the grip of the narcissist begins to break, and the journey into real, lasting freedom truly begins.
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