In a paper published by psychologists Simin Vazire and David C. Funder in Personality and Social Psychology Review, they argue—based on an extensive meta-analysis of the literature on narcissism—that one key trait of narcissistic personalities is impulsivity.
Narcissists almost always prioritize immediate gratification, especially in areas that serve their ego-enhancement strategies, such as social status, recognition, and short-term positive emotions, over long-term goals. What will make a narcissist really angry is denying them instant pleasure in these domains, which they believe they deserve by default.
Number 8: Calling Them Out
Calling them out on their inappropriate behavior.
Narcissists hate criticism, especially when it’s merited and deserved, because it evokes one of the hardest emotions for them to process: shame. According to Dr. Ramani Durvasula, calling a narcissist out on their behavior, especially in front of others, fills them with shame, resulting in anger, blame-shifting, and tirades about how they are the victim.
Calling out their egocentric, entitled, or aggressive behavior likely won’t change anything, especially if done in private, as narcissists are unlikely to listen to anything that threatens their egos.
Number 7: Pinging Their Insecurity
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