The Collapse of the Narcissist’s Faith
So, when God “abandons” them, they feel rejected, dejected, totally isolated, and disappointed in God. Why? Well, they never expected their spouse to leave them. They never expected their husband or wife to find the courage and strength to finally walk away. They never expected their kids to go no contact with them. It was not supposed to work that way. They expected to have absolute control over the family until their last day, and they expected God to make it possible for them. But, as you know, God does not work that way. I believe that God is just and merciful. Things happen for a reason, and things always happen the right way. They cannot understand that. For them, it’s all black and white: it’s either their way or the highway. If things do not go their way, they cannot comprehend the nuance, the subtle message.
The subtle message is: “You messed up everything. It’s because of you, not God. You destroyed your life with your own hands. And now that you’re facing the consequences, instead of feeling guilty and understanding that it’s your karma, you are blaming God.”
So, you see how this works? God becomes the bad object. Their relationship with God is no different than their relationship with you or any other human being. They idealize God at first: “Oh God, You’re amazing, great, wonderful.” They go crazy with scriptures, they go crazy with your traits. But then slowly, God is devalued. The only difference is that they know they must keep this secret deep down in their heart. If they don’t, they risk rejection by the society they live in. When no one is listening, they talk like a devil, sometimes even cursing God, saying horrible things that reveal their true nature.
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