They’re getting restless, and they’re probably turning their attention to other sources of supply to get their brush. And if you ask them what’s wrong, they’ll invalidate your concerns or gaslight you. They’ll tell you that you’re overreacting, being insecure. They may use a very logical argument to convince you that you’re being ridiculous or self-centered by not respecting that they have other priorities other than you. And you might be thinking, maybe I am being too needy, not taking into account the fact that they got you totally addicted to them, and now they’re pulling the drug away.
This pattern of intermittent ghosting will start happening more and more frequently. Sometimes you might know they’re online, and they’re just ignoring you. Over time, they won’t even bother to make an excuse or feel like they need to give you any explanation. They’ll just say it’s your problem, and you need to deal with it. If ever you do this to them, they will lose it. Their purpose in ghosting you intermittently is to make you feel unimportant and unworthy of their time and attention, to make you question what you did wrong, to gaslight you into thinking that you are not perceiving and interpreting the situation correctly, and to throw you into a state of withdrawal.
When you go from having their constant attention and validation to being ghosted, chances are you will become extremely anxious. You may start to ruminate. You may feel like you need to do whatever it takes to get the narcissist’s attention back. So just know that if there are a lot of unexplained absences, last-minute cancellations, or vague excuses like they’re busy, their phone is always dying, then your relationship is on the downward death spiral, and soon they will be ghosting you for longer and longer periods of time. You’ll be sitting there waiting and wondering while they’re out doing whatever they want, whenever they want, with whoever they want.
Weird Habits of Covert narcissist
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