They are on their phones constantly with other people, with other sources of supply, and treating you as if you do not exist. Or they would be online, and you would be online as well, but they would not respond to you. When you are expecting some kind of response from them, they make you feel ignored, and this ignorance is what kills your self-worth. When a narcissist does this, they are confessing that they do not consider you as an important part of their life as you consider them. They do not care about you. They do not care for your presence. They don’t see you as a valuable person that they are attached to. They just caught your attention. They got you, got you in the trap. They sealed the deal. Now that you are theirs, they don’t have to care about anything else because they know they have you. And this is one of the ways of devaluing you so that you can keep begging; you keep asking for that attention. You keep questioning yourself. What did I say wrong? What did I do wrong that made you do this? That made you ignore me? Do I need to change something in my behavior for you to change it? For you to become the person that you were in the early stages of the relationship? That is the kind of justification, rationalization, and thinking that happens in our heads when this kind of devaluation victimizes us.
3: Exploitative Sexting.
Sexting is another behavior, the texting behavior of a narcissist. Now, there is nothing wrong with sexting, but when it comes to a narcissist, their texting is all about sexting, especially quite early in the relationship. Just right after the initial contact, they send provocative images and expect you to send the same without caring about how you feel or knowing if you want to do this or not. They just somehow want to jump in and open your clothes via text. That’s what’s going on, and that is what they do. That is one of the ways they degrade you because you may participate in the sexting, you may share stuff, but later, when they start devaluing you, when they start putting you down, when they start degrading you, you start feeling embarrassed. You feel a lot of shame, and you start berating yourself for participating in the early sexting, not being able to see it for what it was, and so on. But you need to know that it is one of their addictive behaviors that just preys on people for the same very same purpose. They have these other people in line, and they just go to them alternatively and ask for nudes, ask for pictures, provocative pictures, and all of that stuff. Once they get them, they use this person and the pictures and then forget about this person forever or temporarily until they need them again and come back.
2: rare, heartfelt conversations.
Proof a Narcissist Doesn’t Have Any Friends at all
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