Can you guess what happens next? The narcissist does not get to manipulate anyone. If they cannot manipulate the people around you, if they cannot use them as proxies to abuse you, there is no triangulation. If there is no triangulation, there is no further abuse because there are no excesses. They cannot do much when they do not have any foot soldiers to send your way. They cannot hurt you much or torture you through proxies since there aren’t many people who have access to you. That, in itself, makes you boring to them. First, you become a tough challenge—something they try to crack but cannot.
But because narcissists are inherently lazy and need easy fuel, ultimately they drop you, which is exactly what you would want to happen. This is the reason why being boring is the best thing you can do.
Conclusion: Embrace the Silence
It sounds like the opposite of what most people will tell you to do. In a world that tells you to be loud, be seen, and live your best life on social media, choosing a quiet, boring life feels like losing. But in this context, it is your best choice. It is the best move you can ever make. The few people you have left—those one or two friends—tend to be the nicest, closest, and your best well-wishers. These are the people who would not fall for the narcissist’s lies anyway. So you are safe from all angles.
Appreciate this boredom because it happens to be your ticket to freedom. Embrace the silence. Embrace a routine. Let it heal you. Let it regenerate you. Bring you back to life, and let it make you aware of the origins of your trauma so that you can let the healing begin.
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