Narcissists are not caring people. They are selfish, prideful, manipulative, and unempathetic. So, why then does it seem that they go out of their way sometimes to be kind or generous? What is in it for them? Well, just remember that nothing is ever as it seems with the narcissist. And being kind or generous is something any type of narcissist can do whenever it benefits them. Like every other strategic word or action they do, it is all a means to an end.
One of the first reasons why narcissists help people is for attention or recognition.
They love being the center of attention. Some make it more obvious than others, but they live to be worshipped and adored. They want to be seen, heard, and put on a pedestal. So, whatever charity work they commit themselves to doing, just knowing that there is a chance for them to get showered with compliments, praise, a promotion, or a medal is enough to make it worth it. As it really boosts their ego and makes them feel special. They do not care about who they are helping; the narcissist is just busy thinking about how it benefits them.
The second reason why narcissists help people is to gain their trust.
When a narcissist wants more access to your life, they can pretend to be the sweetest, most considerate people you ever meet. They will be there when you call. They are open to do whatever favors you require. They basically want you to see them as someone who is reliable and trustworthy. The narcissist will work patiently and consistently until they get what they want. It could be access to your resources, secrets, network, or whatever it is that they want from you. This is a form of love-bombing that can make the narcissist seem empathetic and considerate, but they are not. Their acts of kindness have a hidden agenda that usually only becomes clear when it is too late. That is why it is important to remember that if someone seems too good to be true, they probably are. And there are ways to test this person’s sincerity.
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