This can make them feel as if they are being vindictive, petty, or simply running away from the problem by cutting the narcissist out of their life. Naturally, they don’t want this association. They know how toxic the narcissist is, so the thought of acting similarly can lead them to feel like a bad person. This uncertainty further complicates their ability to trust their decision.
As we mentioned, going no contact is not an easy choice for a narcissist. However, this is where we can observe one of the most significant differences between a narcissist and a non-narcissist going no contact, particularly regarding grief. For those who are not narcissists, the decision to go no contact is not about punishing the other person; it’s often because they simply cannot maintain the relationship any longer, which frequently comes with a profound sense of grief. This grief encompasses not only the loss of the relationship but also the heartbreak of letting go of what they hoped it could be, along with feelings of pity or guilt for making such a tough, final call.
As for the narcissist? They typically don’t experience these emotions. Remember, narcissists lack empathy, and without empathy, it’s impossible to feel grief for someone else. They may feel anger and frustration, but not loss. To them, no contact is just a game they’re playing with the other person.
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