In the mind of a narcissist, a relationship ending must mean someone is at fault—and it will never be them. This is why they slander their partners throughout the relationship. That way, if things ever end, their story is already in place, ensuring no one views them as the bad guy.
What’s particularly frustrating is when narcissists remain with their partners for decades while ruthlessly slandering them the entire time. People who believe the narcissist’s lies come to see them as saints—patient and enduring for sticking it out with their so-called “toxic” partner, child, or friend.
One thing is certain: whether the narcissist is a man or a woman, they always present themselves as the victim in their relationships.
When a relationship ends with a narcissist, their primary concern is to appear blameless. To them, a failed relationship can never be their fault. They convince themselves and others that they gave everything to the relationship. It’s always the other person who didn’t value commitment, who was crazy or selfish. The narcissist, of course, is entirely innocent.
Narcissists lie to get into relationships, and they lie to get out of them. Interestingly, they often enter relationships as saviors—claiming to love, help, and cherish their partner—but leave as victims. This pattern explains why narcissists rarely change. They spend too much time blaming others and not enough time looking in the mirror to see who they really are.
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