However, reaching this level of strategic thinking is incredibly difficult. You did not learn these skills in a classroom, as no classroom can teach you any of this. You learned them in a war zone. Staying this calm while someone is abusing you requires a level of self-control that feels unnatural. It forces you to suppress your humanity to survive in that inhumanity. If you do not learn how to turn this survival mode off, it can eat you alive. You become a person who’s always ready for a fight, even when there is peace.
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The third important thing we need to look at is how you possess spiritual immunity. You can also think of it as the frequency mismatch. This third realization hits the narcissist when they fire their best weapon, and it goes right through you. Narcissists feed on low vibrational energy—fear, guilt, shame, and anger. They poke you to get a reaction because your reaction is their fuel; it’s their oxygen. But you have done the work. You have healed your wounds and achieved spiritual immunity. When they try to induce guilt, you feel indifferent. When they try to induce fear, you feel grounded. You are vibrating at a frequency of peace while they are vibrating at a frequency of chaos. They realize they triggered the wrong person because they cannot touch you anymore. It’s like a demon trying to scare an angel; the physics do not work.
They feel powerless in your presence because their manipulation hooks have nowhere to land. You’re not gray-rocking them as a technique; you have genuinely outgrown their dimension.
The fourth thing is about how you become the timeline disruptor. Narcissists rely heavily on the element of surprise. They rely on catching you off-guard with a sudden discard, sudden rage, a sudden show-up, or sudden silent treatment—basically, sudden anything. You know their script better than they do; you become a timeline disruptor. Before they can pull a move, you predict it out loud. You say things like, “I know you are going to try to start a fight right before my birthday to ruin it, so I’ve already made other plans.” You may not say any of this to them, but you know it, right? You have these thoughts coming up. Or you might say, “I know you are going to tell your friends I’m crazy, so I’ve already sent them the truth.”
By spoiling their ending, you take away their power. You’ve rendered their abuse boring and predictable. They realize they’re not the mysterious grand puppet master; they’re just a walking cliché. And nothing hurts a narcissist more than being called predictable.
The Scrambled Brain of the Narcissist
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