And now, as you start pulling away—really pulling away—they panic. Because this wasn’t part of their plan. They thought they could discard you on their terms, maybe even keep you hanging on as a backup supply, checking in when they felt bored or empty. But you slammed the door. And now, they’re desperate.
They need to stay in your head. If they can’t have your love, they’ll take your anger. If they can’t have your presence, they’ll settle for your curiosity. They want you wondering if they’re thinking about you, if they’ve changed, if they miss you. And that’s where the games start—fake profiles, accidental run-ins, cryptic social media posts designed to make you question everything.
They’ll play the victim, pretending they’ve seen the light, acting like they’re finally ready to be the person you needed all along. They’ll poke at your emotions, looking for any reaction. Because to them, silence is the only real loss.
But here’s the truth: they never feared losing you; they feared losing control over you. And now that you see them for exactly what they are, their power is gone. The mind games, the manipulation, the carefully crafted mask—none of it works anymore.
Some people break up, think about each other for a while, maybe even get back together—that’s normal. But what the narcissist does? That’s a whole different beast. This isn’t about missing you like a regular person; it’s about making sure you don’t stop missing them. It’s about keeping their claws in your mind, making damn sure they’re still controlling you, whether you’re with them or not.
They don’t need your love; they need your obsession. And the moment you stop giving it to them, that’s when their world starts falling apart.
See, here’s where a lot of people go wrong. That big, beautiful, empathic heart of yours—the one that wants to fix things, to heal, to understand them—that’s exactly what the narcissist feeds on. They know you’re the type who sticks around, who fights for the relationship, who wants to believe people can change. That’s why they picked you.
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