Now, why do they do all this? The answer is simple: noise gives them power. When they control the sound environment, they control everyone in it. You cannot ignore someone creating constant noise, and you cannot focus, have conversations, or find peace when someone is deliberately filling every moment with sound.
There is also a punitive element to their noisiness. When narcissists feel slighted, ignored, or threatened, they retaliate through sound. Ask for some quiet time? Expect the television volume to increase. Mention a headache? Prepare for doors to slam with extra force. The noise becomes a weapon of punishment and control.
The Impact on Survivors
Their hypocrisy is maddening. The same individuals who create constant chaos with noise demand absolute silence when they need to concentrate or rest. They expect you and your children to tiptoe around their needs while showing zero consideration for anyone else’s need for peace.
This constant noise creates a state of hypervigilance. Your nervous system never gets to relax because you are always bracing for the next loud disruption. Chronic stress can take a toll on your physical and mental health, leading to sleep deprivation, anxiety, difficulty concentrating, and even physical symptoms like headaches and digestive issues.
Children in such environments develop their own coping mechanisms. Many become extremely quiet, trying to disappear into silence, while others develop anxiety around loud noises that persists into adulthood. The home, which should be a place of safety and peace, becomes a source of stress and unpredictability.
Path to Recovery and Healing
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