The narcissist failed to see your strength. When they reached the devaluation and discard phases, they showed no mercy. They treated you with disrespect and used triangulation tactics that left you dizzy, feeling as if your head might detach, just as I warned you.
Here’s what happens next: when you show the ability to heal yourself, tapping into that inner power while dealing with disrespect, triangulation, and even actions from your own family. Yes, your family might be involved, helping the narcissist create chaos. If you try to connect with them during this time, it’s like being in a cold, unfriendly place. No one wants to talk; they give you weird looks. Can you relate?
When you try to start a simple conversation with a “Hello, how are you?” some are hesitant to respond because of the lies the narcissist spread about you. They’ve been relentless, spreading lie after lie in their smear campaign. All these things lead to the discard phase, and you find yourself confused, realizing something needs to change because this is not the life you want.
When you try to talk to a narcissist about it, asking questions like, “What’s going on with the family? Why are they treating me this way?” they look at you like you’re strange, like you’re a creature with three heads and four eyes. That’s the feeling they give you; that’s how they treat you.
You might not know that the narcissist has been spreading lies about you behind your back during their smear campaign. They’re doing it intensely, and the family is buying into it. They’re treating you based on the lies the narcissist fed them.
But what the narcissist didn’t see coming was that once you hit the devaluation stage and then moved into the discard stage, it’s like an explosion. The act is over; the mask has completely fallen off. Let me tell you something crucial: they’re not pretending anymore. Everything that came out during the discard phase is a true representation of the narcissist’s character. Don’t be fooled into thinking it’s anything else because this is who they really are.
Now, let’s talk about what happens after the discard phase. It’s done; it’s over. So, what comes next? You’ve made the choice to start loving yourself, just like I suggested before, right? You adjusted that metaphorical crown, and that’s exactly what you did. You put your crown back where it belongs—on your head.
You have this natural ability to heal. Most of you who have dealt with a narcissist have it in you. Your words can bring healing, and so can your touch. You shed a few tears, and those tears, originally filled with sorrow, transformed into tears of joy. So here you are, healing on your throne. On the other side, the narcissist is deep in thought, constantly wondering how you managed to escape their grip every single day since the discard. Even with new people in their life, not a day goes by without them reflecting on you.
I can say this with almost 100% certainty: they’re constantly thinking about the control they lost over you because you’ll always be the one who got away. Why am I so sure about this? Because you’re the one they couldn’t control. You refused to accept a demotion just because they wanted to elevate someone else—someone who fits their family’s messed-up mindset. Yes, I said it, and I stand by it: the mother and sister are the worst. They wanted to promote someone they could manipulate, someone who would gladly act as a doormat for them and their family.
But here’s the twist: you chose to love yourself. You adjusted your crown, so now the narcissist has to deal with their downfall because you were never like them.
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