The Only thing a Narcissist Desperately wants from You (Hint: It’s not supply)

This brings us to the ultimate tragedy of loving a narcissist. When you’re a highly empathetic, loving person, you naturally want to heal the people you care about. When you saw that the narcissist was broken, insecure, or unhappy, your instinct was to pour your light into them. You thought that if you just loved them hard enough, forgave them enough times, and gave them enough of your energy, they would eventually heal. You thought you could fix them. But you cannot fill a black hole, can you? It does not have a bottom. You could throw a thousand bright suns into a black hole, and it will still be a black hole. They will never light up; it will just crush the light and demand more. It is a completely unfixable void. You wasted years of your precious energy trying to fill a bucket that has a massive hole in the bottom of it. The narcissist will take every ounce of love you have to give. And when you’re completely dried up and broken, they will just complain that you stopped shining, and they will leave to find a new fresh sun to devour.

So when you finally realize that this was never about love and always about energy, you can finally take your power back. You have to stop trying to negotiate with a black hole. You have to rip those jumper cables off your chest.

Do not give a narcissist a single drop of your emotional electricity ever again. No more long text messages explaining your feelings. No more crying over their cruel behavior. No more reacting to their fake emergencies.

Silence is the only thing that starves a black hole. When you cut off their access to your energy, you force them to sit in their own dark, freezing reality. Let them freeze. Keep your light for yourself. Use your precious energy to heal your body, rebuild your dreams, and warm the people who actually bring light into your life.

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