Now, to some degree, the approach they take to s*e*x and i.n.t.imacy will depend on what type of narcissist they are and if they’re male or female. However, all narcissists’ worlds revolve around gaining narcissistic supply, and s*e*x is usually about gaining narcissistic supply. It can also be used as a tool to manipulate the other person and to get what they want. Specifically, for female narcissists, if it isn’t being used to manipulate the other person, then you can be sure the narcissist is only focused on their p.leasure. But the bottom line is there is one person and one person only that the narcissist is concerned about when it comes to all things, including s*e*x, and it ain’t their partner.
Remember, in the beginning of the relationship, the narcissist is love-bombing their victim. So, in the early stages of the relationship, s*e*x might seem amazing. Most times, it’s an intense experience, and the narcissist may seem very connected and focused on you. But give it some time, and the cycle of abuse will kick in, and it will contaminate the bedroom activities as well. Many times, after the love-bombing stages are over, the narcissist will become distant s*e*xually. They very well could use s*e*x as a weapon to punish you.
S*e*x might become completely mechanical and one-sided. Lots of my coaching clients comment that they feel completely objectified during s*e*x and that the narcissist doesn’t even acknowledge that they are a participant. Sometimes the narcissist will demand s*e*x every day, no matter how horribly or abusively they have treated their partner that day. They feel that this is something they are entitled to have every day no matter what. It’s just a requirement that you have to fulfill as a matter of duty to them.
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