The third cue concerns your eyes, specifically your blink rate. When people are nervous, overwhelmed, intimidated, or trying to keep up with someone else’s energy, they tend to blink more often and rapidly. When this happens, it can create a sense of dizziness. A high blink rate signals uncertainty; it indicates that you are tracking the other person and are not grounded in yourself.
For this cue, you want to slow your blink rate and then intentionally blink fully. It may sound unusual, but it truly works. Try it: Close your eyes calmly for a moment, then reopen them slowly. This conveys a very specific message—that you are self-possessed, not rushing to respond, not seeking approval, and not explaining yourself.
A slow, deliberate blink communicates to the other person, “I’m not pressured here.” Manipulators depend on speed. They rely on your reactions and expect you to remain visually alert and responsive to them. So, when your blink rate decreases and your eye movements slow, that automatic response loop breaks. You no longer signal urgency, compliance, or the need to keep up.
Just like the other cues, this conserves your energy and brings you back into your own body. You are observing rather than reacting. A slow blink conveys quiet confidence; it states, “I don’t need to perform. I don’t need to prove anything. I’m here on my own terms.”
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