If you’ve ever dealt with a narcissist, you know how damaging and draining it can be. Sometimes, the only way to protect yourself is by going no contact. But what happens when a narcissist goes no contact first? Today’s article is all about the power dynamic between a narcissist and their victim regarding no contact.
There are many valid reasons to go no contact, especially when it involves a narcissist. But what happens when the situation is reversed? Is there any difference? Before we dig deep into this, here’s a truth we want you to remember: for some people, going no contact just isn’t an option. Many would love to go no contact, but they can’t due to factors like children, cultural expectations, finances, or other challenges.
For those who do take that step, the results can be mixed. Some report it has been life-saving, a crucial move for their mental health, while others find that although it was initially freeing, it ended up making them feel isolated and lonely. There are also individuals who needed no contact to heal initially but found that reconnecting with a narcissist later was beneficial because it prepared them to handle the relationship better.
Either way, no contact is a tough decision in relationships where each choice comes with its own struggles. It can be challenging for those who initiate no contact because it requires a lot of strength to stick with it, and at times, it can feel like a constant battle of willpower. On the other hand, those on the receiving end of no contact from a narcissist can find it confusing and hurtful.
Now, let’s dive into the differences between a narcissist and a non-narcissist going no contact. First, let’s discuss a narcissist going no contact. When a narcissist decides to go no contact, it’s usually impulsive and fueled by emotions like anger or frustration. They often use it as a way to punish you or take control of the situation. If they believe cutting you off will get them what they want, they won’t think twice about doing it.
Narcissistic no contact often goes hand-in-hand with other toxic behaviors like the silent treatment, stonewalling (refusing to talk even in the middle of a conversation), passive aggressiveness, or controlling behavior. They typically cut off communication suddenly, leaving you blocked on the phone, social media, email—pretty much everywhere. Interestingly, narcissists often make a big deal out of it, justifying their actions with statements like, “They don’t deserve me,” or “Nobody treats me like this and gets away with it.”
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