So, the first and probably most important thing to do is to exude confidence, even if you’re not feeling confident. If you need to, go ahead and look up some tips for showing or being confident, because this one is really important. Narcissists target people who don’t have confidence because their abuse works by cutting down their sense of self-worth and self-esteem. If they feel like you’re already partly there, then it’s an easier job for them. So, they’re going to target the people who might not have the confidence to stop the narcissist in their tracks and stop their nonsense. This one could be a little bit tricky, especially if you have let the narcissist get away with their nonsense before. But in order to get a narcissist to respect you, no matter what you do, you have to be confident. You have to at least project that confidence. And this works really, really well with a narcissistic boss or coworker. It’s a little bit trickier when the narcissist is a parent that you see every day or a spouse, but it’s still possible. In those cases, I would just say work on that confidence a little bit more gradually. So, make subtle changes over time.
The second tip I have for you today is to become mysterious, and this tip is about taking emotion out of things. So, not sharing your emotions with the narcissist We talk about this all the time because emotions are really what the narcissist uses to trigger you and abuse you, essentially. So the more you can take your emotions and your ego out of things, the better off you’ll be. Now, this might sound like gray rock, but it is actually a little bit different. Gray Rock is about becoming super boring to a narcissist, becoming as boring as a gray rock. Who cares about a gray rock, right? But in order to be successful with Gray Rock, you have to drastically change your approach with the narcissist, and that can trigger the narcissist and make them think that they’re losing control over you. And then they’re going to go into reactive mode. If you’re looking to get the narcissist to respect you, that’s not where we want to be right now. So instead of completely changing your tone with the narcissist and your demeanor, be sure to stay yourself and just keep the emotions out of it. So let’s say you would normally share that you had a bad day with the narcissist. Something happened that upset you, and you might talk all about it with them. When you want to become more mysterious, you’re not going to do that. You are just going to act like you aren’t having any more bad days. Everything is just going your way. Everything’s rosy. There’s nothing to talk about, really.
The third tip I have for you is to get a narcissist to show you respect. It might be a little bit difficult depending on who you’re dealing with, but it is to show them respect because no matter who you’re dealing with, it’s going to be really difficult, maybe impossible, to get their respect or to get them to show you respect if you are being disrespectful to them. So even though you may want to give them a piece of your mind, even though they may fully deserve it, if you want the narcissist to show you respect, this is a time when you are going to hold back on that.
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