How much money you have in savings is another topic to avoid. The first people that come to mind when you think of money are usually your children or partner, because they ought to know about your financial situation. But not with narcissists, especially the broke ones, whom I consider the most dangerous. If a broke narcissist feels you are a hardworking person with great potential to earn money, they will feel entitled to take it away from you.
They will not ask; they will exploit. Money gives you freedom, and they cannot tolerate you experiencing that freedom. They will not only want to know how much you have, but will also think they deserve a share. Therefore, keep your financial information private. If you are planning to buy a new asset in your own name, don’t let the narcissist know. The last thing you want is them fighting for their “fair share.”
Number Three: Your Passwords
Do not share passwords to your internet, banking accounts, phones, or computers with a narcissist. They may want to be part of family plans or data plans, but remember, you are not from a healthy family. Your partner is not your well-wisher. If you forget to change passwords during a separation, they may monitor you, stalking your accounts.
While it’s common in healthy relationships to share passwords, with narcissists, the rules are different. They will want access to your phone but will not give you theirs. So, if you’ve already shared passwords, try to change them if it won’t trigger suspicion. Ensure your accounts are private and not joint.
Number Four: Disliked Individuals
Do not discuss the people you dislike with a narcissist. Whether it’s that friend, colleague, or neighbor, sharing this information can backfire. The narcissist may reach out to those individuals, befriending them to conspire against you.
If you want to get help, seek it from a therapist or trusted friend. The narcissist cannot be of any assistance; they will weaponize your enemies against you.
Number Five: Mental Health Diagnoses
Finally, if you have been diagnosed with a mental health condition, such as bipolar disorder or anxiety disorder, be cautious about sharing this information. Your partner should know, but not a narcissist. If you sense red flags in their behavior, trust your instincts.
Don’t open up about your mental health status until you are sure they will not use it against you. They will weaponize therapy talk and psychology to undermine you. Share this information only with those who truly care about your well-being.
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