A narcissist’s biggest enemy is not you, me, or anyone else. Their greatest enemy is their own false self, their ego. Yet, they keep pointing fingers at others, blaming them for things they never did. They turn everything they touch into ashes, and that’s why I call them masters of self-sabotage. It is this self-sabotage that makes their lives miserable and speeds up their karma. How? Let’s find out in today’s episode.
1. They devalue the same things they idealize.
When a narcissist meets a new person, they shower them with compliments because they believe this person is the answer to their prayers—the perfect individual they’ve been searching for. They leave no stone unturned in making the other person fall for them. But as soon as that person reciprocates, the narcissist suddenly starts seeing flaws that never existed. The same talents and qualities they once admired now become problems they can’t tolerate. They devalue the person and blame them for this devaluation when, in truth, the narcissist simply gets bored. There is no more “chase.” You are readily available, always waiting, and that feels clingy to them. What makes this sad is that you could have been the answer to their prayers, offering love, connection, empathy, stability, peace, and joy. But the narcissist destroys it all because, deep down, they feel undeserving of anything good.
2. They create endless competition.
Narcissists have an insatiable thirst for winning and need to come out on top in every situation. They can’t collaborate or cooperate because they see everything as a competition. This sabotages every relationship, whether with a partner, children, or friends. They focus so much on defeating others that they forget the real goal. For example, imagine a father playing a video game with his kids. When the children win, instead of enjoying the moment or learning from them, the father becomes offended and obsessed with defeating them. This competitive nature ruins relationships, and when things fall apart, they blame others for the failure.
3. Their fear of failure cripples them.
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