The second thing we might be nervous about but definitely should share is any abuse we’ve experienced. Just like with thoughts of suicide, we should ask our therapist about the reasons they would break confidentiality, and one of those will be if a patient is under 18 and being abused, or if an abuser is still in a home with minors who could be at risk. Essentially, we are mandated to report any acts of abuse involving minors, dependent adults, or the elderly. I understand it can be daunting to finally share our experiences with abuse, but you are never in trouble for doing so. The person who harmed you is the one in the wrong. If a report needs to be made, they are the ones who will be punished.
I realize it can be scary or stressful, but it’s not your responsibility to keep that secret. Secrets like those can grow and invade other parts of our lives, almost like a virus; they can lead to other mental illnesses and challenges in future relationships. If you’re seeing a therapist with whom you connect, please speak up and know that you don’t have to keep that secret any longer.
I know therapy can be difficult. Trust me, I’ve been in it myself, and it’s some of the hardest work I’ve ever done. But showing up, opening up, and doing the work is absolutely worth it. You are worth it.
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