To sum up, living a double life enables the narcissist to maintain a life of mystery. It allows them to have secrets and multiple sources of supply while exerting control over numerous individuals. Narcissists engage in activities to distract themselves from their own issues, and managing multiple relationships and living a double life is an effective way for them to do that.
Red Flags
Some blatant red flags to look out for that may indicate someone you are with is living a double life include ghosting—where they disappear for days, weeks, or even months at a time. The second is a prolonged silent treatment, where they are not talking to you as much anymore, sharing less, and appearing more closed off as they seem lost in thought. Additionally, if they become more critical and argumentative, that is another red flag. Occasional love-bombing is also something to note. If they fluctuate rapidly between devaluation and love-bombing cycles, that is another warning sign.
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