When a narcissistic man finds a new source of attention, he often says, “Let’s not talk about my ex; she drove me crazy.” He might claim she was always angry, never satisfied, and easily upset. However, what he avoids telling her is that he is the one who drove her to this state. She started as a kind, cheerful, and forgiving person. Over time, though, she lost her true self as he chipped away at her self-esteem, worth, and identity, leaving her as a shadow of who she once was.
In today’s article, we’ll discuss the deep impact of narcissistic abuse, how it transforms a person, and tools to help stabilize your nervous system and rebuild your sense of self.
The Angry Wife: A Product of Narcissistic Manipulation
If you identify with this “angry wife” role, you know you didn’t start out this way. You became this way because the person who needed to change refused to. You tried compromise, made sacrifices, and even took responsibility for things you didn’t do. But instead of appreciation, you were met with blame, shame, and manipulation. You became someone else just to survive.
The Cycle of Blame and Betrayal
Over time, the narcissist only increased the blame and manipulation. They may have used you as an emotional incubator, hoping that pregnancy or parenthood would change things—but nothing changed. They took you for granted, made you feel inferior, less attractive, and less worthy. They showered others with the attention you deserved, leaving you questioning your worth and feeling abandoned.
In a desperate attempt to save the relationship, you may have tried everything—reigniting romance, adding excitement—but they always kept you at arm’s length, coming to you only to meet their own needs. This constant betrayal eroded your sense of self, leaving you feeling like an object to be used and discarded.
The Deep Betrayal in Narcissistic Relationships
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