Today, I want to talk about the double lives of narcissists—or narcissists and the double lives they lead. I’ll be sharing two main reasons why they do this and also some red flags you can look out for to determine if someone is living a double life. So stay with me until the end.
Narcissists live a double life in multiple ways, especially the covert narcissist, as they pretend to be one person in public and another in private. They are the heroes in public and the villains in private. Often, they live a double life by having more than one romantic relationship, where they act like two different people in each context because they lead two different lives.
This behavior stems from the fact that narcissists love keeping secrets. It gives them a heightened sense of control, knowing they possess information you don’t. The narcissist is always hiding something or someone. Therefore, it should come as no surprise that narcissists are prone to being unfaithful to their partners. Once the love-bombing phase concludes and the narcissist has secured their “prize,” they start searching for a fresh, new, interesting source of supply. One romantic source of supply is never enough for a narcissist, so they are always on the lookout for another. They excel at convincing each new supply that they are the “one” or the perfect fit the narcissist has been searching for.
I have two main reasons why narcissists end up with multiple partners, which leads to them living a double life. While they may make you feel like you are their world, they often have a few other worlds who can testify to the same thing.
Reason 1
The first reason a narcissist would live a double life is that it allows them to obtain more narcissistic supply. Narcissistic supply is at the core of almost everything the narcissist does. They relish the challenge of making someone fall in love with them; it’s a massive boost to their ego. Thus, they will always jump at the opportunity to charm, flirt, and seduce. More partners mean more attention and more people to manipulate and control. Through these multiple relationships, the narcissist can obtain both positive and dark forms of narcissistic supply. For instance, they may intentionally start arguments and create drama to justify leaving the house or disappearing for a while to spend time with the new supply. They continually manage their multiple partners through cycles of devaluation and love-bombing until they’re ready to discard one of them.
Reason 2
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