Another reason narcissists might provoke you is that they sense you’re beginning to see through their facade. Once they realize you’re no longer falling for their manipulations or lies, they go into defense mode. They may use devaluing tactics to discredit you, making you question your own perceptions. This is often part of the “devalue and discard” phase in the narcissistic abuse cycle.
5. To Blame and Shame You
Narcissists deliberately provoke fights to create opportunities to shame and blame you. This tactic, often referred to as “narcissistic baiting,” is used to drag you down emotionally and shift the focus away from their own toxic behavior. They thrive on creating chaos and revel in the negativity they incite. By blaming you, they avoid accountability while making you feel like the problem.
6. They Simply Enjoy Confrontation
For many narcissists, confrontation is thrilling. They enjoy the adrenaline rush that comes from arguing, the drama, and the sense of competition. Winning, for them, means causing you to lose—whether it’s your self-esteem, emotional stability, or sense of peace. Their lack of empathy makes it easy for them to employ any tactic, no matter how cruel or manipulative.
Why Do Narcissists Blame You?
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