Have you ever wondered why narcissists go out of their way to pick a fight with you and then have the audacity to turn around and blame you for the very fight they caused? That’s exactly what we’re unpacking today. In this discussion, I’ll explore six key reasons why narcissists engage in this behavior. Let’s dive in and break it all down.
So, what’s the deal with narcissists and their tendency to provoke conflicts only to shift the blame onto you? Well, there are six primary reasons why they do this.
1. To Justify Doing What They Already Wanted to Do
Narcissists often initiate conflicts as a means to an end. They pick a fight with you simply to create a convenient excuse to escape the situation and pursue something they wanted to do in the first place. Whether it’s going out to play golf, gamble, drink, or even cheat, they’ll orchestrate a disagreement to get out of their responsibilities. This manufactured chaos allows them to justify their actions while pinning the blame on you.
2. To Prop Up Their False Ego and Sense of Superiority
People with narcissistic tendencies often harbor an intense need to feel superior. Picking fights and winning arguments helps reinforce their inflated sense of self-importance. These individuals thrive on the psychological boost they get from dominating others, as it sustains their carefully crafted false persona. The more destructive their narcissism, the more relentless they are in seeking out ways to assert their superiority—no matter the cost.
3. To Siphon Your Energy Like an Emotional Vampire
Narcissists are often referred to as emotional vampires for a reason. They provoke conflicts to feed off your emotional energy. Your intense emotional reactions serve as their fuel, replenishing their own sense of vitality. By targeting your vulnerabilities and eliciting emotional outbursts, they derive satisfaction and energy. Over time, this leaves you feeling drained while they feel energized and empowered.
4. Because You’re on to Them
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