Narcissists live inside a fantasy script where they get to be the star of the show. Written into that script is the rationale for their control, selfishness, entitlement, and so forth. What they cannot see is the escapism this represents. Dr. Les Carter pulls back the curtain by exposing what they wish to avoid, and why it makes no sense.
I know that many of you are very weary when it comes to figuring out how to respond to narcissists, as they can keep coming at you with demands, control, cravings for power, and an attitude of entitlement. Somehow, you’re constantly to blame for whatever problems they have. You know what the score is; you need to understand what’s going on behind the scenes in the narcissist’s mindset. Inevitably, they want to ensure that when there’s a difference, conflict, or strain between you and them, there’s one person who’s going to take all the blame—and it’s not going to be them.
You’ve been receiving so much of their vitriol and smear campaigns, and sometimes you may walk away thinking, “Am I the crazy one here? Am I so dysfunctional that I just can’t get along with these individuals?” The answer is no; you’re dealing with someone who cannot cope with life.
One of the things that’s necessary for you to understand about the pattern of narcissism is that it’s built upon a fantasy. These individuals operate with what we refer to as an alternate reality. They’ve concocted a story of how things are supposed to be, which sets them up to have an escapist mindset toward life. They want to avoid dealing with the common problems that the rest of us have to face. They want to escape all sorts of stresses and strains, which creates a set of expectations that are not sustainable. They think, “I want a free pass from anyone who’s going to make me confront reality.” They don’t want to struggle and strain, and of course, this leads to their narcissistic collapse, but somehow they blame you for all of it.
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