When you look at them years later, you will see the results. You will see what I’m talking about: the bitterness etched into their faces, the tension in their posture, the constant dissatisfaction in their palms. Their life may look rich, but their energy feels poor. They are spiritually bankrupt, no matter how much they own. Gratitude creates fullness. It’s the emotion that says, “I already have enough.” Without it, there is only scarcity. Narcissists live in permanent lack, don’t they? They could have money, fame, attention, or beauty, but inside they always feel like something is missing in them. This is why they constantly chase more—more validation, more control, more admiration. Their lives are like an endless shopping spree in a spiritual desert. They keep collecting people and possessions, thinking it will make them feel alive. But every new thing loses its meaning. Without it, even abundance becomes emptiness.
I have seen this firsthand with my own father. He owns a lot but always says he has nothing. He will sit in a luxurious house and still claim he is poor, that he is unlucky. And that’s exactly what his life looks like because he manifests it. No matter how much he earns, it dissolves into the acid of ingratitude. He looks desperate, as if starving in the middle of plenty. His energy repels joy because his words curse reality. That’s what happens to them. Narcissists manifest their own bad luck this way. They speak misery into existence. Their tongue becomes their punishment. Every complaint becomes a spell that keeps them trapped in misfortune. Gratitude would break that curse, but they refuse to say thank you from the heart. So the curse repeats.
Gratitude demands self-awareness. It asks you to recognize both your flaws and your blessings. A narcissist cannot do either. They cannot admit flaws because it destroys their illusion of superiority, and they cannot recognize blessings because it would require acknowledging the giver. They believe the world owes them. When someone helps them, they see it as confirmation that they are indeed special. When things go wrong, it’s someone else’s fault. Their reality is filtered through entitlement. Gratitude does not exist in entitlement, does it? It’s like trying to plant seeds on stone. Even when they act thankful, as I mentioned earlier, it is just strategy. They use polite words to appear humble when it benefits their image. But you can always feel the hollowness. There is no warmth in their tone, no genuine softness in their energy. Their thank you feels rehearsed, mechanical—almost like a business transaction.
But to them, everything is indeed a transaction. If you cook for them, they may say thank you, but only until the next time you forget the salt. Then they will remind you how much they do for you. Their gratitude always expires the moment you stop serving their ego the way they want. And even when you do it properly, they will come with a complaint. You see, in every spiritual tradition, gratitude is seen as the foundation of abundance. It’s a language through which the universe communicates with us. When you are grateful, you’re telling life, “I see the good you have given me, and I am ready to see more.” That acknowledgement expands energy; it multiplies blessings. But when you are ungrateful, you are telling the universe, “You have given me nothing.” And the universe mirrors that energy back to you.
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